Evolving Woman

Before we dive into finding the power within our feminine energy, we first need to understand what feminine energy truly is and how we can emerge as powerful individuals from this knowledge. 

So, let’s start with the basics. What is feminine energy? 

Everyone, whether you are male or female, has both masculine and feminine energies. These two energies co-exist within each person, regardless of their gender. In most women, the feminine energy is more dominant than the masculine energy, and in some men the masculine energy is more dominant than the feminine energy. Gender doesn’t determine which energy you are most comfortable in. Some men might feel more comfortable in their feminine energy and some women might feel more comfortable in their masculine energy. The key to becoming an evolved individual is to allow these two energies to live in harmony within your body. The one shouldn’t overpower the other, although it is easy for the one to dominant the other. By becoming aware of the qualities of these energies, it’ll be easy to balance them. A question you might have been asking is, how can you distinguish between the masculine and feminine energies. Let’s break it down. 

Masculine energy is all about giving, it is action-oriented and direct. People who are in their healthy masculine energy want to provide, they want to take care of their loved ones or their businesses and this action of taking care and being the provider is something that feels and comes naturally to them. They love challenges, are decisive, they often have leadership roles and if they are not in a leadership role, they like to take the lead and this could be in any aspect of their lives. They like to know that they are in control of their lives, not to pamper their ego or their shadow-self, but because it is a natural attribute to their personality.  

When the masculine energy is out of balance. It could be out of balance due to situations that caused the individual to act from a place of fear or a means of protection. When you find yourself exerting too much control over situations and people in an unhealthy way, it could be a sign that your masculine energy is out of balance. Other signs of imbalances are when you procrastinate, but never get things done. You over-work and feel bad when you have to take a break. You feel closed off in relationships, you are unable to be fully present with people and connect with them on a deeper level.  

Feminine energy is all about receiving, feeling emotions deeply and guided by their intuition. Receiving, is not only about receiving gifts or help from others, but it is also about being open and receptive to the good things that want to enter your life. It is about being creative and being the creator of how you choose to live your life and feeling comfortable, relaxed and free in your own skin. To be comfortably embedded in the feminine energy means that you are comfortable with asking for help, you can calm down easily and you have empathy towards others. You allow people to do things for you and don’t feel obligated to return the favor. The feminine energy embodies the quality of speaking up for what you want, it is having good communication-skills and not being afraid to say how and what you feel. 

Signs that your feminine energy is out of balance could be that you experience blockages keeping you from receiving. You cannot receive compliments, gifts and love easily, you often feel like these things are conditional. For instance, when someone offers you a compliment, you feel the need to give them a compliment back. This blockage of the feminine energy could be stemming from your wounded inner child, who always needed to do something of value in order to be valued or loved by a parent. When you are able to love other people, but struggle to receive love, reasons for that could be, you feel unworthy and undeserving of it and it could be time for you to heal your inner child. A people-pleasing attitude, lack of setting healthy boundaries and having a victim-mentality are also signs of an imbalanced feminine energy.  

In order for us to step into our highest potential and become the evolved women we desire to be, we need to heal those imbalances. By simply becoming aware of these imbalances and bringing it to light is the first step to healing and growing. The second thing is to take action. If you have become comfortable in not trusting others, it could be because you have been hurt in the past by people whom you trusted. A way to restore that trust is to start trusting again. Start with yourself first. You can only trust someone else as much as you trust yourself. Stepping into the Un- comfortability of the situation, allows you to face the things that is uncomfortable and emerging victorious from it, whether the outcome was what you wanted or not. The main thing is, you conquered your demons and that shows a lot of strength and will-power. Push yourself and be okay with the temporary tension. 

To find the power within your feminine energy is to be aware of what your feminine energy is and the effect it has on your personality and the way you choose to do things. We know now what the differences between the masculine and feminine energies are and also the signs of imbalances of these two energies. We also know that the energy we are most comfortable in is not determined by our gender, but rather how we naturally feel. Once we have identified which energy, we are most comfortable in, we can cultivate it in a way that is in harmony with the other energy rather than destructive.  

Being too much in your feminine energy could also be destructive, because it would for instance, make you a softer person and people would often try and take advantage of that. To step into the power of your femininity, means that you combine the qualities of the masculine into the feminine energy and acting accordingly. Therefore, it is essential to balance these energies to find the power within your feminine energy. Remember, the feminine energy cannot exist without the masculine energy and vice versa.